She's The One
Article #70
She's the one you call when you're bored because she makes you laugh.
She's the one you call to talk to when you're feeling down because she's willing to lend an ear and be a friend.
She's not the one you call when you need a date to your homecoming, or to go kissing on a Saturday night.
She's the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One."
You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime. The one who you lead on but then let go of.
She's not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as a 'real' woman, either.
She's not bitchy enough, or high matinence enough to be seen in that light.
She's too laid back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by.
She's too understanding of life, too comfortable; she doesn't make you feel nervous or excited the way a 'real' woman does.
But she's cool, nice, funny and kind enough that when you're lonely and need female companionship, she'll do just fine.
You share moments with her, moments you will never experience again.
You don't have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already and
you don't have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve.
You're not trying to get anything of substance out of her, she's not easy, but you know
that she cares about you and is attracted to you and that she'll give you the friend you need.
As a matter of fact, you know she would always do anything for you. Give you her life. And you know you don't have to explain yourself or the situation, that she'll be able to cope with the fact that this isn't the beginning of a relationship or that there's any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.
It won't bother her that you'll go on a date with the woman you've been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She'll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went.
But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't because to you, the situation between the two of you isn't important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it's really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don't think she's good enough to spend any real time with.
Sure, it's mostly her fault, because she doesn't have to give in to your needs. She could play the hard-to-get person like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and her both know that she probably couldn't pull it off. Maybe she's too short, or a little overweight, or maybe she loves you. Maybe she does but she wont admit it. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman.
So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman. You'll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding and she'll laugh and make a joke about you being the messed up uncle of her kids. But what if deep down, someday she actually wants you to be the father of them, not the uncle.
She doesn't captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile.
You don't see anything in her like she sees in you.
Mainly she blends in with the crowd.
She's safe.
She doesn't want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room,
but she wants to turn someone's head.
Most importantly, she wants to turn your head for once.
She wants you to realize she wants you to love her and not treat her like shit.
She wants to be your special someone.
She has feelings.
She has a heart.
In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you've ever known because
she's had a front row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life and she loves you anyway...
She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you've given her nothing,
and hurt her, and at this point in life there is absolutely no reason to still be around for you anymore, she is.
And someday, she won't be around...
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